On a little browse of that addictive site called Netgalley, I came across this book. A book which is not an average read for me, but the title struck me as a book which could be inspiring. So thank you to Netgalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy
From Facebook’s COO and Wharton’s top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life’s inevitable setbacks.
After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
Published April 24th 2017 by W H Allen
When I first started reading this, I bookmarked a lot of pages to remind myself of what the Author said. Yes, the tale started off sad where Sheryl tells us about the death of her beloved Dave, the Father to her two children and how grief stricken they all were. But over all of the sadness is hope and resilience. The Author gives us so many examples of how we can help ourselves when the really tough times come, and also how we can encourage others not to feel awkward around us. (which is something all of us can understand).
The Author’s personal experience is of the premature death of her Husband, but she tells us many other examples of human suffering, and how the so many of us have lost our ‘Option A’, so we have no choice but to live with ‘Option B’. This book encourages the reader to really make the most of what we have left and to try to change our thinking and attitude that we won’t always feel so hopeless and grief stricken.
The Author herself has many advantages over the average reader that has gone through loss and suffering. She has money, an extremely supportive boss and employment and she also has a host of great supportive friends and family – all of which make things easier. But I think that even without these things the book can still be inspiring and helpful in times of desperation and hopelessness.
Some of the things she suggests seem obvious now, but not so when the suffering hits hardest. For example, she includes studies that psychologists have done about writing lists of things we are grateful for. Then the Author speaks about things which are not so obvious to, like the five stages of grief and how they don’t stay in the same order all the time. You are not done when you have gone through each stage, and that’s ok! Confidence, anger, tears and loneliness are all spoken about, all of which are of course very common human emotions, but how many of us know the best way to deal with them?
The writing was easy to read and each chapter spoke of a different issue. (Examples include – Building Resilience Together, Taking Back Joy and Finding Strength Together).
I found this book helpful, therapeutic and would recommend it to anyone who is going through a hard time, or needs to help someone else through a hard time. The Author writes truthfully from her own experience, but also adds in evidence from psychologists and others’ experiences. This is a book I will keep close to me in times of need.
Thank you Sheryl, Adam….and Netgalley! 😉